Human Harmony & Feng Shui

Xmas is upon us yet again. This crazy part of the year is expected to when you spend time with your family and be a fun-filled period full of good old-fashioned love and merry cheer. Statistically though, this could not be further from the truth. Stress levels rise along with suicide, separations between couples run rife and tempers flare in all directions. Individual expectations at this time of the year usually mean that most people come under far more stress than normal and are likely to associate with people that they may only see once a year let alone like. Family dynamics can be tricky at the best of times and Xmas only seems to compound any potential issues. So, how can Feng Shui support you at this time.

I have found that in general the following suggestions are a great starting point for enhancing human harmony in the home. It all starts in the bedroom – this is one of the most important rooms in the home when it comes to harmony between people. This is the parent’s resting place and I have always been of the opinion that should the parents be in a ‘great space’ then this will automatically flow on to the rest of the family. Hopefully these pointers will help some of you to negotiate through a few rough patches Xmas can sometimes generate.

•   Endeavour to place the head of your bed against a solid wall. This promotes a stable foundation. Should this not be possible within your bedroom then I would suggest obtaining a large solid bed head. In addition to this you can hang heavy curtains directly behind your bed. One client, having enough light entering the room, selected an inexpensive chipboard and placed it across ¾ of the window. Improved rest was the immediate result.

•   Cover those mirrors. It has been said that during sleep, mirrors draw in your spirit and therefore create restlessness. However, I prefer to see it from the perspective that, energetically, mirrors are very fluid and create movement. Given that bedrooms are for rest and regeneration then mirrors are not conducive to achieving this. And…… we all have difficulty maintaining a happy demeanour and keeping things in perspective when we’re somewhat tired. In most modern homes the master bedroom in particular, has mirrored robes the full length of one wall. Visually this creates a larger space that can be impressive. However, it’s not good Feng Shui. If you have this situation a simple step could be that during your sleep time you place a screen in between the foot of your bed and the mirrors. Should you have a freestanding Cheval mirror then just simply turn it away from your bed. When you go to bed, a mirror from a dressing table can easily be covered with a dense cloth. All of these methods can be quite effective.

•   Change rooms if you have to – this could well be a good option that most people won’t consider because the bedroom may be smaller than what they’re used to, or not have an ensuite. Is the ensuite or size of the room really more important than improved harmony? In the case of many consultations where the couples were prepared to make the big move the results have been astounding for each of their particular circumstances. The original ease of being together has returned, momentary hugs and kisses flow more readily and, if there’s a disagreement, it doesn’t last a long time anymore – it’s more readily resolved. So try it.

•   Do not place your bed under an exposed beam – it will only add more pressure. This is particularly so when the ceiling is low and the beam is running parallel above the bed creating the sense of being separated from your partner. When you have exposed beams the ideal solution is to camouflage them with a false ceiling. In the case of rented accommodation or where finances just simply do not allow this privilege then paint the beams the same colour as your ceiling - or - a clever client of mine created a ‘boudoir’ effect by covering the beams with magnificently sensual flowing fabric. Any of these options are recommended to help reduce the negative impact of the beams.

•   Never sleep with the foot of the bed opposite a large window or doorway. This is the coffin position and can disturb your health and subsequently your love life. In this position the rush of energy directly towards you at night is anything but relaxing. If this position is your only option then keep the door closed whilst sleeping or only slightly ajar. Ideally however, the bed should be diagonally opposite the door. The idea is to be able to see the door but not be in the direct path of the energy flow. To not be able to see the door equates to being vulnerable and given that the aim is to keep our nervous system calm then it is always best to seek the most ideal placement.

I would like to take this opportunity to say a big thank you for all your kind words and letters of thanks you have extended to me over the past year. As a close to 2006 and wishing you all a Merry Xmas there will be 4 autographed copies of ‘THE FENG SHUI WAY: Create the life you want through your environment’ by Juliana Abram made available. To be in the running for one of four copies of Juliana’s book register online at LOGIN on www.myoptions.com.au.